Co-Parenting During Difficult Times It is seldom easy to co-parent with an ex, especially if you and your ex don’t see things in the same way. Why not have difficult discussions with a skilled and trained mediator? Cab’t Travel ? Instead we can Zoom; my Zoom meeting rates are less than my usual rates, and…

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Here we are in what seems like the middle of a forever stay at home vacation/confinement in Minnesota. Do COVID-19 and mediation mix? yes, it is possible to try mediation during this confinement. It can even be a more personal and comfortable experience, because you won’t be physically present in a room with you ex…

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It is hard to have hope during a divorce. People often tell me that the best they can hope for is to get out of a divorce alive. But I think that’s selling yourself short. I think you should strive to get out of a divorce intact, and in a position to grow personally and…

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What do you do if you are stuck at home during the CoronaVirus “Staycation” and you have problems with your ex? This is “self-Divorce Mediation.” This also works for current spouses. The best Divorce Mediation or any Mediation is peaceful. Stay calm or calm down fast. Did you know that if you start getting worked…

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It has been a long winter and it looks winter isolation will continue until June. Looks like we will be by ourselves for much of the time over the next few months. Corona Virus isolation is a real thing. It is hard to be apart from your support groups and family and friends. Corona Virus…

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Is arguing necessary? No, not always, but we are human. Everybody argues. Everybody gets tired and hungry and “hangry” (the kind of irritable people often get when they’re hungry). Before you start arguing and get drawn into nastiness almost unintentionally, stop. Wait. Agree to take it up a different time. Respect your partner, even if…

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February 2020 Post 2 (Nesting) Nesting is a concept that some couples adopt temporarily or even permanently. In nesting the kids stay put, while the parents move or at least change parenting responsibilities. In the one home model of nesting. Parents may live mainly in different sections of the house (usually off limits to the…

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It has been a long winter. These winters can wear on relationships, especially, if the fabric of your relationship was wearing thin even before the winter. How does a relationship wear out? Well, first, when partners stop talking, stop trying to work things out, problems can arise. Maybe you’ve tried to get your counselor to…

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I wanted to talk about Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) for divorce or child custody. ADR is the alternative to going to court (with attorneys or without attorneys). But there are many different ways to settle a dispute:Mediation (with or without attorneys) is where you sit down with your significant other with a mediator and try…

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