What is Fair in Divorces, Divorce Mediation and Child Custody?

When you’re getting divorced and you want to discuss divorce mediation or child custody but want to spend time with your kids, what is fair? You can go to court and the judge decides what is fair and you might end up with less time with your kidshttps://hellodivorce.com/ready-for-divorce/how-to-determine-what-is-fair-in-your-divorce. Or you can go to mediation and you figure out what is fair. Does the judge always agree with what you decided in divorce? No, but if you agree together, you are much more likely to get what you want. For example, in child custody do you always have to go with what the child custody calculator says for child support? No, if you have good reasons, and you both agree, you can ask for something different. How do retirement accounts for each get divided? Some people believe in a divorce each should keep their own retirement, what they earned. Others believe you should take to grand total of all retirement accounts and split in half. What about the retirement funds you had before? Often each gets to keep his or her own, but it also depends on other factors. If one person has earned all the money, and the other is unable to earn, maybe you would decide that some of what you had before could go to the other person.

Child Custody

You might know your kids have a hard time adjusting to change. Maybe that means they should spend a longer time with each parent instead of switching houses so often. In child custody issues parents often do better than the judge might.

Property Division

What about division of personal property or property division? No judge or referee (referees in Minnesota Divorce are like a judge) knows how you feel about something, even if she knows the value in money. Maybe what you divide is based on what kind of lifestyle each of you want. It makes no sense to give valuable things to someone who wants to “travel light” through life, moving forward. maybe what is most important to each of you in a divorce is valuable for sentimental reasons.

These are the types of questions and decisions you are most often allowed to make in divorce, if you go to mediation. Sometimes, when you get an attorney, you end up doing what the attorney wants, not what you want. Who wants that? Call me now to chat: 507-269-9079 or 612-670-7980. Mediation works!

Maybe you are more concerned about keeping the house? Property division can be tricky but I know many ways to do it. Dividing up what you have doesn’t need to be a burden. Judges tend to divide things in half. I knew of a judge in my state who insisted on dividing a dining room table and each of the chairs in half, as well, unless the couple decided together who gets the table and chairs. That is the frustration many people feel when they get to court, and the frustration many judges feel in divorce and child custody, if the couple can’t figure out what it is they really want. Divorce mediation, child custody and custody schedules don’t have to be difficult.

Find a Good Divorce Mediation Mediator

Not all divorce mediators are the same. Some are attorneys, with exceptional understanding of the law. Others, like myself were trained in some other field. I am someone who understands numbers, but I also had training in counseling and psychology. I can help people get along in child custody disputes more than many attorneys can. That means faster , easier and less painful mediation sessions. Call me today: 612-670-7980 or 507-269-9079