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Divorce Mediation Pitfalls

What are some divorce mediation pitfalls to avoid when doing divorce mediation? One is inflexibility. Do you really need to exchange the kids at 4:30 pm, or could it be 4:15 or 4:45? When your ex-to-be say “yes” do you automatically say “no?” If so, you might want to think things through. There ARE some…

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How to Handle Non-Marital Property in Divorce Mediation

If you get an inheritance while married, there is always the question of whose money it is. The courts can decide one thing, and you can do something else in mediation. As long as both parties agree to it, you can decide to make this marital money instead of just one person’s (non-marital). often a…

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Budgeting and Finance in Divorce Mediation

Finances is one of the most difficult areas of dispute in divorce mediation. Many problems in marriage and divorce can come down to power and control issues. The most common place for power and control issues to play out is money: who gets to spend, how much, and when. It is not uncommon to have…

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Getting to Divorce Mediation

Divorce mediation is a good thing, if you need to divorce. It’s better for you, better for the kids, and you’re not ripping each other’s reputations to shreds via attorneys. You can start your post-marriage life cooperating, not antagonizing. It’s a great role model for your kids. But what if you and your ex are…

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Where to Begin? Divorce Mediation Explained.

Where do you begin with a divorce? It’s best to begin with divorce mediation. Most courts will require you try mediation whether you have an attorney or not. So if you go to court most judges and referees will order you to try mediation. Why not try divorce mediation first, before you go to court…

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Spring Cleaning? Maybe It’s Time for Divorce Mediation.

Despite the snowflakes yesterday, spring is coming to Minnesota! It’s the time of year when many choose to do spring cleaning of their houses and yards. It’s also a time when folks have more energy to “move on” in their personal lives. If you are moving on into divorce, consider divorce mediation: it’s better for…

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More Divorce Mediation Issues

The hardest part of divorce mediation issues is that what is an issue to one partner or parent or spouse may not be to the other. But it is precisely because one person has a problem that the other person doesn’t acknowledge that leads to a breakdown in a relationship. Divorce mediation can help with…

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Divorce Mediation Issues

What are the main issues in divorce mediation? There are many the courts are concerned about, but the most important issue for MN courts is the best interests of the children. What works for the kids, even if it’s more difficult for the adults, rules. Of course, there are exceptions, because if you make divorced…

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How to Handle Personal Property Division

Folks often ask me, “Why all the bother about personal property?” After all, it’s all our stuff and we got it all divided up as we wish. Why does the judge or referee care what I do with my stuff? The answer is simple. The judge is concerned about fairness. That’s why I have folks…

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What to Bring to Mediation

Clients often ask me, “What do I bring to mediation?” My answer is, eventually you bring everything: anything that proves the amounts of salary, assets, retirement accounts etc. But not right away. The most important thing to bring to mediation is yourselves, in a reasonable shape to mediate. That means sleeping well (if possible), don’t…

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