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Divorce Mediation and the Holidays
When is divorce mediation very often needed? the holidays. When do folks want to least like doing divorce mediation? The holidays, of course. It is getting to that season again. When folks dread having to work out the holiday schedule with their ex for the kids. What’s the alternative? Doing it well BEFORE the holiday…
Read MoreDivorce Mediation: A Change of Seasons
Having trouble in your relationship, whether you’re married or not, is difficult. It can be especially tough if you have children from the now-troubled relationship. There is a tendency with most all of us to want to ignore issues for as long as we can. This leaning is especially strong when it is coming into…
Read MoreDivorce Mediation and Reconciliation
There are many types of Divorce Mediation out there, including those that are “transformative.” There can be no transformation without reconciliation of the parents. Not reconciliation in the sense of getting back together, but rather simply leaning how to work with each other for the greater good of their child or children. When a mediator…
Read MoreTypes of Mediation
There are a couple types of mediation. Here they are. One can mediate in a style that is closer to evaluation. That is, I as a mediator would say ” I’ve got concerns about how the judge might disagree with, and change that agreement. ” I can input into the discussion solutions others have found…
Read MorePost-Divorce Schedules
Divorce mediation can make children’s schedules easier. You can communicate directly with your ex-to-be and work out what is best for you and especially your children. Kids are different. There will nearly always be an unsettled period when the child first arrives at your place from the other parent. Depending on the child and his…
Read MoreDivorce Mediation with Kids
Handling divorce even without children is not easy, but having children involved makes it twice as difficult. Without children, courts are mainly concerned with division of assets. With children courts are interested in children’s welfare also: will each parent’s household have enough money to meet the needs of the children? Will each parent have the…
Read MoreDivorce Mediation Pitfalls
What are some divorce mediation pitfalls to avoid when doing divorce mediation? One is inflexibility. Do you really need to exchange the kids at 4:30 pm, or could it be 4:15 or 4:45? When your ex-to-be say “yes” do you automatically say “no?” If so, you might want to think things through. There ARE some…
Read MoreHow to Handle Non-Marital Property in Divorce Mediation
If you get an inheritance while married, there is always the question of whose money it is. The courts can decide one thing, and you can do something else in mediation. As long as both parties agree to it, you can decide to make this marital money instead of just one person’s (non-marital). often a…
Read MoreBudgeting and Finance in Divorce Mediation
Finances is one of the most difficult areas of dispute in divorce mediation. Many problems in marriage and divorce can come down to power and control issues. The most common place for power and control issues to play out is money: who gets to spend, how much, and when. It is not uncommon to have…
Read MoreGetting to Divorce Mediation
Divorce mediation is a good thing, if you need to divorce. It’s better for you, better for the kids, and you’re not ripping each other’s reputations to shreds via attorneys. You can start your post-marriage life cooperating, not antagonizing. It’s a great role model for your kids. But what if you and your ex are…
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