Options With Divorce Mediation

What Are Your Options in Divorce Mediation?

The first option in divorce mediation and child custody mediation is using it in the first place.https://www.findlaw.com/family/divorce/your-comprehensive-guide-to-divorce-options.html Most often, folks think about using attorneys. I use them all the time, but mainly for checking documents and understanding laws, highly technical assets division and rarely if rarely mediation doesn’t work. Occasionally I do mediation with each person having an attorney, but that gets really expensive quickly- you’re each paying an attorney plus part of the divorce mediation fees!(Ouch). I always recommend trying divorce mediation first WITHOUT attorneys. If you need help later, great. I have known wonderful attorneys, and they can help a lot. But they are expensive. A divorce mediator is less because you split my cost, and I can often get the agreement more quickly than attorneys.

What are Your Options While Using Divorce Mediation?

Why is divorce mediation better?https://www.nysmediate.org/what-is-divorce-mediation-. You, not an attorney, gets to decide what is important. If figuring out who gets the family pet is important, you can decide that and spend time figuring out costs and schedules, in as much detail as you want. Who gets the dining room table? The snow blower? the little giant ladder? You decide. But sometimes things aren’t worth it. Do you need to spend an hour figuring out who gets the $25 wedding picture? I can tell you if it’s worth it up front, and help you find options you might never have thought of in divorce mediation (copy the picture, exchange the kids in a middle place).

The Best Options in Divorce Mediation Are What Works For You (Two)

It doesn’t matter what the attorneys think, or even what I, your mediator thinks. If you decide something I will try to help you make it work, and tell you why it might not work, and what you have to do to make it work. Which is better: longer stays for the kids at each house (it depends on age and personality), picking up or dropping off (it depends on how long you have to wait as the kids get ready to come with you). Who gets the kids school days (it might depend on which parent is better at helping with homework or talking with teachers)

Judges Don’t Want to Make Decisions for Your Kids in Divorce

That means the judge is more likely to accept what you both decide, because you are much more likely to follow what you decide, rather than being forced to comply by a court order what a judge thinks. Do you always get your way in divorce mediation? No. Sometimes you have to give a little. Sometimes (not very often) the judge insists on her way. There is a reason you are getting a divorce. You don’t always want the same thing.

Learning Through Divorce Mediation

It’s possible to learn how to cooperate in divorce mediation with the help of that third person in the room. Then it will be much easier to cooperate AFTER divorce mediation, when you meet face-to-face without a mediator. Sometimes people learn how to cooperate as co-parents so well they never have problems cooperating afterwards. And if your kids can see how well you cooperate, they will often try less often to pull you apart, because they understand it won’t work

Divorce Mediation Through Zoom

Zoom is the latest in divorce mediation. It is more convenient because people can stay at home where they are more comfortable. You are not in the same room as your ex- you can be many miles apart when you try divorce mediation. You can even ask for separate Zoom rooms, so you never see them at all! If it is less stressful, then you can make better decision, and faster and cheaper.

Call me for More Options in Divorce Mediation 507-269-9079 or 612-670-7980

After decades doing mediation, I can help you with more ways of doing things than you possible could imagine. How to split property fairly, how to compensate when one person wants it more, even if the item wanted is not valuable. Here is my contact for if you’d rather I call you. https://resolveconflictnow.net/glen-bickford-quality-mediation-contact-form/. You’ll be glad to talk to me! I offer free consultations. I can do divorce faster, cheaper and better.