Mediation Topics

Where to Begin? Divorce Mediation Explained.

Where do you begin with a divorce? It’s best to begin with divorce mediation. Most courts will require you try mediation whether you have an attorney or not. So if you go to court most judges and referees will order you to try mediation. Why not try divorce mediation first, before you go to court…

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Spring Cleaning? Maybe It’s Time for Divorce Mediation.

Despite the snowflakes yesterday, spring is coming to Minnesota! It’s the time of year when many choose to do spring cleaning of their houses and yards. It’s also a time when folks have more energy to “move on” in their personal lives. If you are moving on into divorce, consider divorce mediation: it’s better for…

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More Divorce Mediation Issues

The hardest part of divorce mediation issues is that what is an issue to one partner or parent or spouse may not be to the other. But it is precisely because one person has a problem that the other person doesn’t acknowledge that leads to a breakdown in a relationship. Divorce mediation can help with…

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Divorce Mediation Issues

What are the main issues in divorce mediation? There are many the courts are concerned about, but the most important issue for MN courts is the best interests of the children. What works for the kids, even if it’s more difficult for the adults, rules. Of course, there are exceptions, because if you make divorced…

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Divorce Mediation and Shortening the Process

Divorce Mediation or Separation Mediation can be a longer process if you have a lot of possessions to divide or have a lot of children, especially with a large age range. It helps you a great deal if you can figure a few things out before you come in to see me. It is fastest…

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Child Custody, Divorce and Joint Custody

When I meet with divorce mediation clients, many of them say that they want joint custody. For most people, that means exactly 50/50 parenting time. Some even want it down to the hour. And though I’m not an attorney, I know Minnesota law for joint custody is not always exactly 50/50. What joint custody means…

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Fall and Family Disputes Need Mediation

Here we are in fall. The sun is lower and the weather cooler. It is a downer time of year for most of us. We feel cold and dread the coming of winter (all except those who like winter sports: my daughter, for example). This can affect our ability to manage our feelings with respect…

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Mediation, Couples and Church Fights

People in churches often say to me, “how can you do divorce mediation or child custody evaluations?” Isn’t that hard? Well, yes, it can be, but the truth is church mediation is more often harder. Why? because the more people you ave involved in a conflict, the more difficult it is to resolve. The same…

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Spring is Here! So is Divorce.

It’s spring and my phone is starting to ring for help with how to get divorced in Minnesota. I have been helping folks with divorce mediation for about 12 years now, and I’ve been mediating with couples on non divorce related matters for nearly 25 years. I’m happy to offer a free 1 hour divorce…

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Emotions and Mediation

Emotions and Mediation How do your emotions affect the mediation process? Very much. But all too often they are left out of the mediation process. They are ignored. They are discounted. They are despised. Worse yet, they are elevated to the point where they are the only thing that matters. Emotions and mediation. Emotions in…

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